In 2002, I left my office after work. It did not stop hurting for months, but I mostly ignored it. After a year passed and it got worse, I finally saw my doctor.
When I went back to MRI results, they closed the door of the examination hall, sat directly to me, and said, as he could professionally, “There is a wound on your hip.”
“a cut?” I had said. “Do you mean a tumor?”
“Yes,” he said.
I was 38 years old, chasing a promising career in journalism, married a woman whom I loved, and the 7 -month -old daughter’s father’s first father. And with that single syllable, I found out an incurable form of blood cancer called many myeloma – and it was reported that I had 18 months left to live.
But thanks to the revolutionary new remedies for my illness, which have developed since then, which was more than 20 years ago. It is not a stretch to say that I am doing something about a medical miracle. Cancer is not something that I wish on anyone, but at the same time, almost dying has taught me something difficult – but valuable – a lesson about how to live Happy, meaningful and remorse-free life,
1. If you do not enjoy your life, what is the matter of living life?
A question that is often asked to me because I have become ill if I have changed the way to eat and exercise. The answer is that I tried to take better care of myself before diagnosing, but only to an extent.
I don’t eat highly processed foods as much as I used to try Go to the gym as often as I can. But I still use a cell phone, stand in front of the microwave, and sometimes eat too much or get down from my couch for a few days at a time.
2. You can handle more than what you think.
Since I was diagnosed, I have experienced four round radiation therapy. I have several episodes of severe bone pain, gastrointestinal issues, chronic insomnia and recurrent infections.
If you count the wounds on my skull and there is loss of feeling in my feet, then cancer has affected me from head to foot. When I was first diagnosed, I did not think I could manage such a challenging challenge.
After making it alive, I know that I can.
3. People, most of them, are good anyway.
This is especially true of doctors and nurses. I have seen me on my time on Saturday and after taking my call at 2 o’clock, nurses have held my hands through episodes of serious nausea and vomiting.
The entire medical establishment risked me and millions of other cancer patients and others to keep their lives alive and well during the Kovid epidemic. They are, simply say, hero.
4. If there is something you want to do, then do it now.
Have you heard of the word “pre-of-classation”? This is contrary to dysfunction. Instead of being unable to do things ahead of time, you essentially motivate them to do as soon as possible.
Since I was diagnosed, I have become a religious former Castenator. You never know how much time you have. If something is important to you, do not wait. It is on!
5. A good relationship is worth fighting for it, even if it is bad for some time.
Some people will tell you that the cancer either separates from a relationship or brings the joints closer together. For me and my wife Didi, both did it. The stress of my illness, as a patient and a career and as a potential single parent, on him, created a snow storm among us.
Finally, however, cancer forced us to face our issues and try their best to address them. It was a long, difficult and fierce process. It included individual and pairs in years of medicine, which often moved backwards as he moved forward. But finally, it brought us together.
6. If you know someone who is ill, lend them one hand.
Shortly after the diagnosis, many people told me stories about friends who had many myeloma and died. A friend told me that she understood what I am doing, then I proceeded to tell me about intimidation of 48 hours of skin cancer. Many people said that they “knew” I would be fine.
The truth is that, a simple expression of heat or sympathy was the best response. A colleague said, “You are a poor man. Forgive me.” it was right.
My best friend sent me a letter since childhood. Near the end he wrote, “You are my oldest friend.” I do not know why there was so much power in it, but for the first time I came to know that I had cancer, I burst into tears.
7. Practice acceptance.
Perhaps I have learned from being ill, the biggest lesson is to accept whatever life brings my way.
Sometimes fish are cutting, sometimes they are never. Sometimes cards come in your way, sometimes they do not. Sometimes you are sick, sometimes you are fine. To control what you can control and accept what you can’t do may not be a secret of human happiness, but it is probably as close as we are going to get.
In his 2003 book, “A mathematician plays stock market“The Temple University Math’s professor and philosopher John Elon Poolos put it in such a way:” Undexibility is only a certainty, and knowing how to live with insecurity is only safety. ,
Jonathan Glack There is a writer and editor whose work has appeared in the New York Times and The Washington Post. He was the Deputy Editor of New York magazine for 10 years, after which he worked as Vogue’s Managing Editor. His work has been recognized with several National Patrika Awards. He is the author of “An exercise in uncertainty: a memoir of disease and hope,
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