key takeaways
- Binding false often often lies out of habit, even when they have nothing to lie. They can do this to manage social conditions or promote self -esteem.
- The signals may include excessive expansion, anxiety, ambiguity or defensive when telling stories or others are related to information.
- If someone keeps lying to you, do not take it personally. Instead, tell them how it affects you and encourages them to talk to a professional. If lying persists, set and maintain boundaries, including eliminating the relationship.
A binding false is a person who lies habitual, even without a clear purpose or in situations where the truth would be more beneficial. We all sometimes lie. The average person tells two lies in a day. However, some people tell many lies a day to deal with various social situations.
We asked experts how to deal with binding false people, and they recommended the person to encourage professional assistance, while to protect themselves to determine the limits in their relationship with them.
How to tell if any one binding is false
Amy daramusA licensed clinical psychologist, Psyd, states that binding false people have very little control over their tendency to lie as a copy skill. “They may lie to manage social situations or to meet their psychological needs of security, safety, or related.”
For example, a binding can tell a quick lie to avoid false inconvenience or ask them to make something more desirable, says. Sabarina RomanoffPsyd, a clinical psychological and professor at the University of Yeshiva. “They usually have subjects in their lies, such as: they are brave, they have a lot of achievements, or they are worthy of sympathy.”
these are some Indicate that someone is lyingDr. According to Romanoff:
- Tell the stories with extensive details to make them more real
- Looks worried while speaking
- Often their story is changing
- Saying one thing but doing the other
- Interrogate
- Fantasy rescue When faced with discrepancies in their story
Dr. Daramus says, sometimes, it can be difficult to tell when a person is lying, and you just have to wait and see if their words have proved to be untrue. “If you know them well, you can recognize a tone of voice or body posture that tells you that they are lying, but many times you just have to wait for it.”
Why some people can’t stop lying
Some people essentially lie out of the habit, while others do it due to mental health disorders.
Mental health status
Dr. According to Daramus, people who essentially lie can do this because they have mental health conditions such as:
However, it is important to note that everyone who essentially lies, not necessarily mental health conditions, and everyone who has these mental health conditions, not necessarily a binding false.
Lie as a copying skill
Many people who lie, they use it as one Shadow Skills, because it resolved them or solved a problem, perhaps when they were very small, Dr. Daramas says. “So, if a binding is a liar, they might have to handle some difficult situations where lies helped or kept them safe.”
A 2016 study states that the brain becomes accustomed to dishonesty. Researchers studied the minds of the participants when they lie and found that the more lie would be, the easier it would be to lie big, more frequent for them.
What to do when someone keeps lying to you
Don’t take it personally
When you realize that someone is lying to you, you can surprise yourself what you have done wrong or whether your behavior has anything to do with it.
However, it is important to avoid taking a person’s lie Individually And remember that their compulsion to lie more reflects on them, the more you do on you, Dr. Romanoff says.
Tell how their lies are affecting you
If you catch the person in a lie, then try not to be disappointed and go back and forth for truth, Dr. Romanoff says.
Instead, talk to them and tell them how their lies are affecting you. For example, you can say:
- “I was angry and upset when I came to know that you lie to me.”
- “If you lie to me, it is difficult for me to do this work.”
- “It is difficult for me to believe that you are telling me the truth now.”
Encourage them to get help
Encourage the person to see Mental healthcare provider Who can help them understand why they are lying, diagnosing whether they have an underlying mental disorder, and help them develop a healthy copy system.
Dr. Daramus says, you can make your relationship with him casual on his treatment with a trained professional.
Determine limits with them
Dr. Daramus recommended Installation of boundaries With the person to save yourself. Depending on your relationship with the person, you can say:
- “I don’t want our relationship to be based on lies. If you tell me the truth, I can only be your friend/companion.”
- “I have to end your employment if I know that you have lied to me again.”
However, if a person’s compulsion to lie is strong, the limit may not be effective, and you can find that they are continue to lie to you, despite the danger that you will go away from the relationship, Dr. Daramas says.
Aimee Daramus, Psyd
A point may come when you need to think through your limits and end your relationship with them.
– Amy Daramus, Psyd
Pathological false versus binding false
Pathologically lying is not essentially the same as lying. Below, Dr. The difference between Romanoff explains Disease And binding false:
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Is out of habit; It sounds natural and automatic
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Usually located in low conditions
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Inspired by the need to manage social raids
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Lies may seem unnecessary or irrational
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Causes a slow erosion of confidence over time
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With intentions, often for personal gain or manipulation
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Still lies when it causes loss or serious consequences
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Inspired to cheat self-interest, control, or others
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Lies are often strategic and pungent
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Others can cause significant harm to quickly