Ardern says that he took a deliberate decision not to strict or re -prepare his personality when he entered Parliament at the age of 28. But she also assumed that “this means I will not get up,” she says. He created peace with the idea that authenticity could be inconsistent with ambition.

Over time, however, he came to know that the symptoms he had once thought was a liability, in fact, a deep property.

His emotional intellect helped him speak with People, not just them. His authenticity created faith. His sensitivity, she came to know, did not have a weakness, but a filter. “If you have taken a decision and an affected group feels injustice by it, it is actually the kind of thing you should hear,” she tells. “You should try and make it off, but you should hear it.” Flexibility, for him, was not about thick skin; It was about selective permeability. And it was the self-awareness of Ardern-and was indifferent to power for her own-finally helped her determine when she was enough, and It was time to go away.

The rise of Ardern seems to be a symbol of a generational change: she is part of a group of young female politicians who no longer feel the need to wrap themselves in the traditional costumes of authority – whether literally or symbolic.

Like Ardern, Alexandria Okasio-Cortez of the US Congress clearly talks to those whom she represents-the distant, not in the polish rhythm of speech, not talking to other humans like a human being. She answers questions, accepts when she is wrong, and tells what she is doing in real time on social media. That openness is a source of his power, not to soften it. Former Prime Minister of Finland Sana Marin estimated a similar access to: dance at concerts, yes, but also with a kind of calm assurance that did not require a posture.

In many ways, the old model of dominance-AS-power was a game that is rarely established to win women. From an early age, boys are taught to compete: on the field, in the classroom, in a contingent pride. In contrast, girls are taught to cooperate. To like warm, acceptable and well. And when you do not try to intimidate people your life, power through dominance can feel not only foreign, but fundamentally wrong.